The Problem – The Solution – The Process


We all want to change but it seems the most difficult thing in the world. Why is that? Let me tell you of some research:

A psychologist wanted to carry out some tests on affecting peoples perception. He gave one group of volunteers a hot cup of coffee to hold in their hands and gave another group a cold cup of coffee to hold. He then asked the volunteers to rate a photograph of someone – did they think he was kind, warm, friendly etc. The volunteers that had been holding the hot cup of coffee gave SIGNIFICANTLY higher marks than those who had been holding the cold cup.

How did this happen? The volunteers did not even drink the coffee yet felt more positive towards the photograph! There’s more….

A colleague noticed that when her clients left a therapy session, they were smiling. Initially she thought it was the effectiveness of the session but then she noticed that her eight year old son had drawn a small smiley face near the door handle………….

What was happening in these two cases (and there are thousands of examples!)? We are all affected by unconscious triggers that we are not consciously aware of!

Habits rule our lives, they are what make us say ‘thank you’ automatically when we are given something. It is working at the unconscious level that often determines our behaviour. These habits or unconscious processes are reinforced throughout our lives. Advertising is a prime example. Think of a chocolate ad, how it is filled with beautiful images, creaminess, pleasant music, attractive women in a state of bliss, maybe something forbidden or slightly naughty – all these building unconscious desires to get you to buy the brand – positive associations with eating chocolate. AND THEY WORK!

Poor You! You are a victim of unconscious desires that you have no control over. That’s why so many regimes and diet fads simply do not work because they are not getting at the root of the problem.

But don’t worry – you have already taken the first step in changing the way you behave. Just being aware of the above HAS CHANGED YOUR LIFE!


Unconscious desires are notoriously hard to get rid of by just working at the conscious level. I could give you a list of things to say in your mind when confronted with a bad eating habit but this would only be superficial. I could beat you with a stick every time you opened the fridge (aversion therapy) and this could stop you (and then you could sign up for my “fear of fridges” therapy). No, neither of these ways are effective or practical or even desirable. It is only by working at the unconscious level that true change comes about – permanent change!

What we have to do is to get past the conscious level to a deeper region of the mind and it is here we will initiate change. Change will come about in a positive way. And what is more it is a pleasurable experience. You will enjoy the process and change the way you behave.


The techniques used in this process begin with taking you to a deep relaxed state. You will go beyond the conscious level to the unconscious where you are amenable to suggestion. It is here that the real, lasting accomplishments are made. The more you listen the easier it will be to enter a deep relaxed state, you will go deeper and deeper until the conscious mind disappears. You will enter a calm, peaceful, meditative state and hear positive affirmations about your eating habits. These will become deeply engrained in your being. Once this has been achieved your unconscious mind will remember them and act on them in your waking life.


Hypnosis, meditation or getting high-what’s the difference?

Hypnosis, meditation or getting high-what’s the difference?

5 days ago ago by avalon26. Spam? Tags: Hypnosis, Stress, The Economy

The differences between hypnosis, meditation and mind altering drugs may seem obvious, but they aren’t.

Humans have used drugs and alcohol throughout recorded history. It seems we  have always sought ways to alter our mind.  Archaeologist have discovered that the Oracles at ancient Delphi used mood altering drugs during their rituals.   The architecture of Gothic cathedrals and Gregorian chants are mood altering. It is not by chance that churches, temples and shrines are designed the way they are. It’s calculated to make an impact on your psyche.

Historically, meditation was first  practiced by Eastern religions as a way to know God or the ultimate truth.  The proper use of meditation leads to trance states very similar to the Alpha, Theta and Delta states measured in brain wave activity. Certain brain wave activity corresponds to altered states of awareness. In other words, our mental state can be measured by brain wave activity.  Some  substances have this same effect. Many cultures and religions use them to  alter their psychic state.

Why do we seek this altered state of mind?  No doubt the practice goes back into misty pre-history, probably around the time someone asked,  ”Why am I’m here and what happens when I die?”  There is one thing all mind altering substances and meditative practices have in common-they ease pain. Whether it’s physical, mental, emotional or even spiritual pain, we have learned that certain practices assuage our angst.

The hypnotic state or trance is similar to that of the  meditative and some drug induced states, but with a difference.  Hypnotherapy is the application of tested techniques which uses the hypnotic state to ease pain and improve performance. For example, we wouldn’t  practice Zen meditation for the express purpose of quitting cigarettes or improving a golf swing. Nor would you go to a Hypnotherapist to find God in your life. But in both cases, both outcomes are possible. Albeit in a roundabout way.

The point is that the state of mind achieved by meditation, hypnosis and some chemicals are virtually the same when using brain wave activity as the measuring stick.  Don’t get me wrong here, I am not questioning the validity of the religious experience whether obtained by meditation or by an act of faith. We’re discussing something different here.

Hypnosis as practiced by a certified hypnotherapists is aimed at  tapping into the subconscious to fix the problems of everyday life. To this purpose our field has developed a special language and methods proven to have specific beneficial effects. The words, tone and construction of a hypnotherapist induction are not random. Those methods have been tested and proved effective at putting a client into controlled trance states very similar to meditation. The difference between a Hypnotherapist and a Zen practitioner is what we do with that state once we get our client into it.

We have developed special scripts using precise language and word patterns that impact the subconscious in specific ways. We have learned for example that the subconcious does not respond to negative constructions. Instead it recognizes positive affirmations. This fact is central to our field.  The difference between, “You won’t smoke another cigarette” and ” You are a non smoker” may seem minor, but to the subconscious it is night and day. One is rejected and the other works.

Personally, I find this fact intriguing. I coach little league baseball and soccer and have noticed the profound beneficial effect of positive reinforcement and statements over negative ones. But that is another story.

If you’re seeking truth, spiritual enlightenment and closeness to God, then by all means meditate, go to church, synagogue or your mosque or to travel to Mexico for peyote.  I believe they are all paths to same destination. While I do acknowledge that most religions claim they possess the exclusive route to God, we cannot ignore the manifold ways to get there. I’ll leave the religious debate to others.

If on the other hand, you want to quit smoking, overcome fear of flying, public speaking or improve your golf swing, then call a certified hypnotherapist. They may not save your soul, but they can certainly help you improve your daily life or survive another day watching the Dow Jones.

Please feel free to contact me for a free consultation. I’ve been helping folks for many years through hypnotherapy and general life coaching.



Myths About Hypnosis

Myths About Hypnosis

People often fear that being hypnotized will make them lose control, surrender their will, and result in their being dominated, but a hypnotic state is not the same thing as gullibility or weakness. Many people base their assumptions about hypnotism on stage acts but fail to take into account that stage hypnotists screen their volunteers to select those who are cooperative, with possible exhibitionist tendencies, as well as responsive to hypnosis. Stage acts help create a myth about hypnosis which discourages people from seeking legitimate hypnotherapy.

Another myth about hypnosis is that people lose consciousness and have amnesia. A small percentage of subjects, who go into very deep levels of trance will fit this stereotype and have spontaneous amnesia. The majority of people remember everything that occurs in hypnosis. This is beneficial, because the most of what we want to accomplish in hypnosis may be done in a medium depth trance, where people tend to remember everything.

In hypnosis, the patient is not under the control of the hypnotist. Hypnosis is not something imposed on people, but something they do for themselves. A hypnotist simply serves as a facilitator to guide them.

Key To Happiness

  1. Something to Do. How many times have we felt unhappy with life because we simply had too much idle time? I know it has happened in my own life. When I get bored, I get down, and I only snap out of it when I start to get busy again. The thing is, we have to recognize this pattern and stay busy to keep our mood elevated. Find a hobby. Volunteer your free time. Learn to cook. Coach youth sports. There are endless possibilities for “something to do” if we take the time to look.
  2. Something to Love. Friends and family are such an important element to our ultimate happiness. During a traveling phase at my last job I spent a number of lonely nights hundreds of miles away in a hotel room on business. I was in foreign surroundings, working in a job I didn’t particularly like, in an industry I didn’t believe in (credit/financial services). The one source of inspiration to get through those nights was my family. Even though my career situation has since improved, I still think of my wife and kids when I get down and can’t help but smile. If you are single, you may have a best friend that always knows just how to pick you up, or make you laugh when you want to cry. Pets can even be an incredible source of companionship, there to greet you at the end of a long day. I’ve had pets most of my life and marvel at their willingness to love us unconditionally.
  3. Something to Hope For. Everyone should have something to hope for. Something that drives them towards a goal. It’s been said that if you aim for nothing, you’ll hit it every time. Have something to aim for; a dream that you hold close and never let completely out of sight. When people lose hope they get complacent, and complacency often leads to a poor attitude. This self-perpetuating cycle of negativity can lead to serious depression, and ultimately harm cherished relationships. I know, I’ve been in a rut myself and I lost sight of the dreams I once held close. But all hope is never lost, you just may have to work a little harder temporarily to catch up and see those dreams around the next corner again.

“The only difference in a rut and a grave is six feet.” If you find yourself in a rut, stop digging. Start moving in the direction of your dreams and things will begin to improve. If your goal is debt freedom, stop charging to your credit cards and start paying all you can pay on outstanding debts. Do not be overwhelmed by the distance to the finish line. If your goal is to lose weight, do not focus on how far you are from your goal weight. Instead, take it one day, one meal, one bite, one workout at a time and begin to move in the direction of your dreams.

The bottom line is we are responsible for our own happiness. Government programs, promises from elected officials, and pats on the back from bosses may offer temporary mood boosts, but ultimately happiness is a self-induced state of mind. Be responsible for your own happiness.

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